Our In-Depth Training
A six-month deep-dive through our full-spectrum education in embodiment, intimacy and relating.
Apply NowA Deeply Transformative Jouney
• Receive a comprehensive and integrated emotional, relational and sexual education
• Deepen your experience of intimacy, connection and free sexuality
• Shift your relationships from fear to trust
• Explore your deepest longings around intimacy, love and partnership
• Rediscover your erotic innocence and wildness
• Reclaim your body as an intelligent instrument, an inner barometer for your truth
• Experience healthy sisterhood and brotherhood within a loving tribe
• Deepen self-love and self-acceptance through the mirrors of others
• Transform your personal fear, shame, and trauma around who you are as a sexual being
• End the war within as a political act of healing the planet
• Step into your greatness as part of a much larger spiritual evolution.
2024 training dates
“I have been dreaming about something like this all my fucking life..."
Come Home to Love, Eros & Your Body
We all carry a collective trauma. We fumble in relationship, we struggle with loneliness. We’re cut off from our bodies, their juices and smells and animal desires. We manipulate our sexual partners for external validation. We try to mimic porn sex. Men are men because they get laid. Women are women because they are desired. Happiness is rarely lasting.
Would you like to experience a different kind of world?
A world where we could slow down enough to feel safe in every cell of our body... where we could put our conditioning on hold... where we can allow our senses to open and guide the way.
What if we could build a new culture together — based on trust that comes from speaking the truth?
What if we could bridge that painful gap between who we think we are in our minds – and who we experience ourselves to be through our bodies and hearts?
This world is here now. This is your invitation.
Together, in community, we will live in this new world. We will explore how to cultivate a loving, erotic embodiment in which all of us is included, even the parts that feel scary, amazing, too little or too much.
We will explore how we can heal one another, unlock our organism’s innate ability to integrate and embrace all our contradictions. Come home, through your body, to one united whole.
In this community we will cultivate trust, solidarity and mutual support. We will move from experiencing ourselves as isolated messed up individuals, to stand together in the devastating collective and historical trauma we have inherited. This cultural wound has left us in fear of, and at war with, love and eros, the sacred energies that created us and are the essence of our joy. This wound lives in every fiber of our nervous system as a terror of not being worthy of love. Women fear intimacy with men. Men fear intimacy with women. Brothers mistrust brothers; sisters mistrust sisters.
We can't heal these relational traumas alone.
But we can engage in simple and truthful ways of being together, by quieting down the regular, superficial chitchat of social interaction. We can enter into a profound transformational intimacy with one another and with shared reality, through attuning and dialoguing — breath by breath, sound by sound, touch by touch, move by move.
You can be a part of this future.
Are you ready to jump aboard this life-changing journey?
Let’s find out…
Apply now
“I feel much more deeply surrendered to the truth of my experience without any impulse to bypass it...”
“As I feel into how I experience myself leaving here, I feel much more deeply attuned to the truth of my experience and much more deeply surrendered to the truth of my experience without any impulse to bypass it. I felt so much more deeply in my spine, in my root, I could feel the base of my spine, I feel it here on a level which I s deep for me. I feel super excited that we are going to do this over a year, that is such a special gift - I have never experienced anything like that with a group of people. Who knows where we are going to go? And as I said to you guys, what you are holding is really special, really really special. It is such a gift to humanity...” Jonas
"I have been dreaming about something like this all my life."
"I have never experienced anything like this with a group of people before."
This work is priceless,
but in case you're wondering...
For individuals:
€5000
Price includes the course fee, vegetarian meals and accommodations in shared dorm.
A non-refundable deposit of €500 is required to reserve a place.
Please discuss payment options at interview.
For companies and organisations
€6300
Price includes the course fee, vegetarian meals and accommodations in shared dorm.
A non-refundable deposit of €500 is required to reserve a place.
Please discuss payment options at interview.
Apply now
2024 Training Dates
The training is a 6-month journey containing 4 week-long residential modules with additional weekly online integration groups.
Module One: April 22 – 28
Bonding as a Community
Module Two: June 17 – 23
From Trauma to Personal Power
Module Three: August 12 – 18
The Erotic Animal Hiding in the Shadows
Module Four: Sep 23 – 29
Integration and Celebration
More detailed info on the module contents below.
The 4 Modules – An Overview
Module One –
Bonding as a Community
In module one, we build a strong container of safety and community. This happens when our sharing is received and mirrored by others in ways that allows us to feel truly seen, known, heard and accepted. When we build this kind of space together, radical healing becomes possible. In fact, it becomes irresistible!
Module Two –
From Trauma to Personal Power
In Module Two, everyone has the opportunity to work with their developmental/ attachment/ sexual traumas. These are invited to be brought into the community to be witnessed and met in love, transparent vulnerability, and are challenged to the illusions they maintain. We learn to connect, safely embody, and relate with these defensive instincts. We develop our capacity to possess and harness the power of these instincts, our primordial reactive power. Fear is turned to power: the power to love as we desire, to create the sacred life we wish to live.
Module Three –
The Erotic Animal Hiding in the Shadows
In Module Three, we learn to share clear feedback with each other, reclaim our projections, roar from our hearts, wrestle and cuddle with each other, and rewrite old stories with new ones - ones where we can be truly ourselves, in all our power and fullness, and truly bonded with others at the same time. From this point we can begin to know a sexuality that is genuinely grounded and integrated with the core of who we are. We do this knowing that despite (and maybe even thanks to) our edges and shadows, we are lovable, we are welcome, and we belong. We feel the relief of not needing to live from a defended place, expecting the worst to happen, again. We learn to rest in a presence that holds all the good, all the bad, as one who has enough heart and belly for both the light and the shadow.
Module Four –
Integration and Celebration
In this final phase of our journey together, we flow, dance and play in the field of love the community has created. We nakedly expose our raw and powerful hearts. We activate the erotic force in all its soulfulness and animal wildness – and explore what it means to heal, transform and empower ourselves and each other into a totally new experience of being alive. In Module Four, the participants add new flavors to the group harvest through sharing their gifts and offerings with the community. The community enters the mystery of co-creation through a fluid leadership and a more improvised structure. We play with dissolving the boundaries between leading and following. Each individual learns to stand in the power of their wholeness, the unique beauty of their brokenness, and their erotic force and aliveness. Together we learn how these are gifts, for each of us and all of us. We come to feel what it means to stand together as an integrated community of unique, empowered individuals, each plugged into the source of their own inspiration to contribute to the whole – in wisdom, pleasure, rawness, creativity, and celebration.
“I am super amazed and so grateful for this experience and for you guys bringing this out and making it possible for me and us to find it. For me this is a dream come true. And if you ever make a living community, you can count me in. I want to live like this! I don’t want to live in any other way because this is real. yeah. And I Love the way you lead with transparency and vulnerability and its just whhhaaa, I feel like this jellyfish, I am soft and floating, I am so safe and comfortable and I have so much love for all of you. Its like this unconditional love we have and there is nothing we can do that will make it less. No matter how fucked up you are, there will always be more!” Tori
Facilitator Team
Buster Radvik, MA
Buster’s dharma is being by example and leading with integrity. He literally wears his heart on his sleeve and has a reputation for pleasantly shocking an entire room with his candid emotional awareness and ability to reveal himself, transparently, no matter how awkward and messy it might look. His warm, open style gives permission for people to come home to their humanity, embodied in an ecstatic atmosphere of vulnerability and presence. He gently guides participants into the wisdom of the body and its innate drive to heal, develop new capacities and adapt.
Buster is the founder of Embodied Intimacy and Embodied Intimacy Training. He is a Certified Sensorimotor Psychotherapist in private practice. He specializes in individual, couple and group therapy for trauma and attachment related issues around intimacy, sex and relationship.
He believes that the body is the pathway to liberation.
Li Tadaa
You might not remember what Li said, but what they invited you to feel will be a lasting memory. Li is a queer dancer and lust coach whose research focuses on movement and intimacy as tools for healing, self-expression and our innate gender fluidity.
Li’s work goes deep as they combine playful practices such as dance and conscious kink with somatic therapy and healing practices. Li founded the movement practices “Dance into Your Lust” and "Move into Kink" which include aspects of dance and movement therapy, tantra, conscious kink and trauma therapy. Their work also lie on a foundation of Li's lived experience in Mozambique in combination with other African healing practices and ancestral work. Follow Li at instagram & FB @lustcoach or read more at www.litadaa.com
Elaine Yonge
My journey has involved a lifelong fascination and inquiry into awareness, purpose, the human condition, love, sexuality, spiritual connection, soul wisdom, expansion, learning, unlearning, meditation, physiology, health, disease, exploring aliveness, sexuality, death and grief.
I am a Group Facilitator, Educator, Coach, Guide, and Energy/Bodyworker in the fields of Consciousness, Breathwork, Sacred Sexuality, Somatic Sexology and Shamanism. Some of my certifications include specialities such as Certified Sexological Bodyworker and Certified Shamanic Breathwork Facilitator. I have supported humans in these realms for over 10 years. With individuals, groups, in person, online and at festivals around the globe. I have offered this via one-to-one sessions, coaching and energy/bodywork and via facilitated intensive group residential retreats.
Currently, I mainly offer deep-dive experiential retreats. ‘The Journeys’ is a series of 5 -7 Day Retreats I created and facilitate to explore and reset our relationship to Pleasure, Breathwork & Energy. These retreats include educational components however they are primarily deep embodiment journeys harnessing Somatic, Tantric & Shamanic Explorations.
I have been part of the International School of Temple Arts (ISTA) Tribe since 2012, as a Lead Faculty member from 2015 to 2022. Leading many level 1 SSSEx and the level 2 SSSIn journeys around the globe.
In my earlier life, I was a Diagnostic Medical Scientist for 20 years in research, clinical practice and direct patient care. I bring this powerful experience of the physical manifestations of dis-ease to my current offerings. Thirteen years ago, a crushing grief event changed everything and led me to this 'work'. Over the last thirteen years, I have been grateful for and lovingly humbled by the opportunity to support thousands of human beings to connect with the power within themselves to heal and transform.
I enjoy bridging the apparent illusion of the gap between science and spirituality with love and respect for both.
www.elaineyonge.com
Past Guest Facilitators
Each year we are joined by some fabulous guest facilitators who bring their own deep insights and magic to the training. Some of our past guest facilitators are spotlighted below to give you a sense of the calibre of our extended team.
David Cates
David Cates has devoted 40 years of his adult life to exploring sex, intimacy and connection.
He travels the world as a deeply respected tantra teacher, sexual healer, mentor and beloved elder. His recent explorations involve using tantric embodiment practices to create synchronized group heart fields. He created the Belly2Belly practice so random strangers can move together into a palpable shared experience of trust and loving connection. David is committed to showing men and women how to tap into the power sources in our own bodies and give birth to new realities.
Triambika Ma Vive
Triambika Ma Vive is a leader for shamanic sexuality seminars worldwide and provides somatic healing and mentoring for emotional & sexual empowerment.
Featured on Playboy TV, The Learning Channel, and Aubrey Marcus’ Fit For Service, Triambika is also a lead facilitator with ISTA (the International School of Temple Arts) and offers paramount somatic-sexual practitioners training across the globe.
With over 25 years of experience, Triambika brings her depth, wisdom, and keen intuition to support people of all gender to release deeply held limiting beliefs and heal traumas to create self-empowerment, healthier relationships, and extraordinary intimacy.
Christian Pankhurst
Christian Pankhurst is a world-leading authority on heart-centered communication and heart intelligent relationships. He is the creator of the Heart IQ™ Method, a coaching framework that specializes in group dynamics and intimacy development.
Christian is also the author of 'Insights To Intimacy' - Why Relationships Fail and How To Make Them Work.
Christian lives in the Netherlands at the Heart IQ™ Headquarters - a stunning four-hectare retreat and community center near Groningen. Together with his team, they spread the work of Heart IQ™ around the world.
Janine Ma-Ree
Janine Ma-Ree has a passion for the feminine mysteries, the holy dark and the path of the mystic.
She offers Shamanic Womb Journeys, Immersion days, private sessions, facilitates as lead faculty at International School of Temple Arts. She also offers other workshops as they emerge. Janine draws on over 25 years experience in wholistic health as a practitioner, presenter and facilitator as well as the many mentors, guides, teachers and experiences that she has been gifted on her life's path.
Reid Mihalko
Former actor and producer-turned-sex and relationship educator/media personality, Reid Mihalko has been called "America's favorite sex geek," and helps adults and college students create more self-esteem, self-confidence, and greater health and accountability in their relationships and sex lives using an inspiring mixture of humor, personal stories, keen insight, and comprehensive sexual health information.
Felix Ruckert
In July 2004 Felix conceived and curated the first edition of the xplore Festival which took place at Dock Ir in Berlin. Since then every year in July the festival gathers a large number of international presenters and some hundred artists, BDSM-folks and other free spirits, who come together for workshops, lectures and talks on creative sexuality, BDSM and Tantra. xplore can be categorized as Social Choreography and promotes an Ars Erotica in the sense of Foucault's writing.
In March 2007, Felix Ruckert opened his own venue in Berlin: schwelle7, dedicated to participatory work and experimental body practices. He curated, created, taught, performed and lived there until May, 2016. Besides its focus on Dance and Body Art, schwelle7 also proposed workshops dedicated to practical and technical aspects of SM-Play, looking into theoretical, esthetic or philosophical issues related to BDSM.
schwelle7 tried to examine connections, parallels and gateways between the world of Art and Sexuality. Part of this research was the conception, curating and hosting of the first Touch&Play Festival in May 2010, in collaboration with Daniel Haves.
Godfrey Deveroux
Godfrey's pioncering journey into the roots of human experience is grounded in a lifetime of somatic practice that began when he was 16 years old. Unintimidated by the ideologies and hierarchies of tradition he has been developing methodologies of Somatic Intimacy for over 40 years. His groundbreaking work makes available the full power of human intelligence by way of the pleasure nature of the body and Consciousness. His teaching is as direct as it is potent, simple as it is profound. At its core is a dynamic understanding of human nature in all of its richness and power. His powerful somatic methodologies, each in their different ways, dissolve and digest the left-over traces of unresolved past experience that damagingly distort the free flow of natural intelligence. They all embody the need for safety generated by honest acknowledgement of limitations, boundaries and uncertainties.
In his teaching Godfrey masterfully but playfully shows you how to unravel accumulated lavers of defensive restriction into the safe and
nourishing Presence of Love.
https://nowbelove.com, http://www.dynamicyoga.com
Rex Rafig
A native New Zealander with a global heart, Rex Rafiq has been leading transformational programmes with men and women for 25 years. Founder of Essentially Men, the ground breaking mens work of Aotearoa New Zealand, co-founder of the Heart Politics Gatherings and author of Fatherless Sons (Harper Collins) and On Their Own (Finch) he is trained in group work, psychodrama, expressive therapies, co counselling and has a masters in Social Ecology. His experience has been honed from working extensively with groups in all kinds of settings from the wilderness to corporations, prisons to ashrams, and anywhere in the community people are showing up for wisdom. Over his life he has explored diverse mystery traditions, shamanistic practices and spiritual enquiry. His outer world expressions have been diverse - from a young hunter living in the wilderness, to activism, street theatre, trainer, community catalyst and group leadership. He has a solid reputation for leading potent rites of passage and known for his wise and playful style and ability to hold people with love while they shed their skin.
Rex has stopped trying to improve himself...instead he has turned to loving the life force that is living him, which includes embodying the joy and transformative power of sexuality. He is on faculty at International School of Temple Arts.
Our Assistant Team
Each year we are supported by previous graduates of the training who just can't get enough of the Embodied Intimacy community. In their own unique way they want to Embody the brave space of openness, vulnerability and authenticity we create by learning how to hold space for this work and make it their own. Below are a few of the apprentices supporting the 2023 training.
Cherie Hornsleth
Embodied Intimacy is a community where I get to feel alive.
Being at the year long training 4 years ago definitely changed my life - and the way I feel life in my body. The training allowed me to build a foundation for how I relate to myself and others. I learnt basic tools and practices on how to regulate my body and connect in authenticity.
Before the training I was trying to connect with people but I didn’t have the proper skills to really experience and feel deep connection, so it often felt superficial.
Through Embodied Intimacy, I experience that I am allowed to express, explore and connect with myself and others from a place of aliveness within me. It changed my life and opened me up for deeper friendships.
Today, I also incorporate the tools in my work and through assisting in weekend workshops. I feel very grateful for the gifts I continue to receive in this community and i'm looking forward to assisting the upcoming training to marinade even more in the community.
Arati Jericho
On first accessing Embodied Intimacy through an online festival, I knew this was a space where I could dive even deeper into what it means to connect and relate, overcome some of my fears and bring more aliveness into my relationships.
There are so many things which I’ve gained from this training. One of the biggest for me is – that I can stay more and more connected with myself and my loved ones when it is getting relationally challenging.
I’ve never felt happier, and my surroundings are reflecting this back to me on a regular basis – which feels amazing. To be really seen with all parts of me. Moving towards more wholeness.
I can’t wait to dive back in once again, deepening all I’ve learned, unveiling even more, holding space and to give back, while assisting this year’s journey. It is such a gift to me, and I am very much looking forward to meeting you there, sharing and exploring our lives together – in connection.
Leah Rödl
Only a couple of years back, the language of my life came straight from my head. From the norms to be filled, the external shoulds and should nots - my mind filled with so much self destructive criticism that I had to leave my job and life behind. It became too dangerous.
Intuition guided me to sign up to the training within a week of hearing about it. Since then its been never ending beautiful beginnings of journeys to discover new languages.
Over the last 2 years since graduating I have had the honor to grow more and more into assisting in EI events and holding space on my own for others to discover their own languages, exploring with curiosity what is outside the known box and navigating the discoveries.
“There is not a single part that I brought here that has left, but there is no judgement towards them anymore..."
“I am in complete peacefulness right now, there is not a single part that I brought here that has left, but there is no judgement towards them anymore. I still have all these instincts, reactions, patterns but this attachment to the idea of getting rid of them somewhere with some practice or teacher, with some magic, some medicine, drug, it’s just gone. They will always be there and now there is this new relationship forming to them to start to honor them and curiously witness them whenever they come to presence, and that it's just mind-blowingly beautiful. This idea that I can find some place in the world that can heal me somehow is gone. Now, it's just like cool, lets witness this theater, until it's gone. And all of you are so fuckign deep in my heart - I have no words for you (Buster & Rachel) I know you see it pouring out of me but I am so grateful. Thank you guys.” Leo
The 4 Modules In Depth
Module One:
Bonding as a Community
Key Focus Points:
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Develop a somatic sense of safety – feel safe in every cell of your body.
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Reclaim your body as an intelligent instrument that work as an inner barometer.
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Learn how to feel, and trust the intuitive yes and no in your own body.
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Move away from the disempowering traps of judgment, blame and victimization – to compassionately reclaiming responsibility and personal power.
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Learn powerful relationship skills based in compassionate and responsable listening and speaking.
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Experience trust in individuals, yourself, and in community.
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Feel deep trust in the healing potential of community.
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Develop an authentic masculinity and femininity together with others.
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Feel relaxed and accepted with your sexual history and as yourself as a sexual being.
A Holistic Picture
Do you feel deeply safe in your body and in intimate connection with others? Do you sometimes feel anxiety, fear of rejection, shame or uncertainty about whether you are truly welcome just as you are, with the body you have, the shadows you hide, the desires you feel? Can you be naked and relaxed and let your body talk – emotionally, physically, sensually – with others?
When we feel safe in connection with ourselves and others, we have the opportunity to thrive, to discover, reveal and enjoy who we are. When we don’t feel safe, intimacy stirs up endless problems.
And this impacts not only our relationships. Psychological research has shown that feeling safe and secure in connection with others is one of the strongest indicators of wellbeing, health, fulfilling relationships and resilience in life.
In Module One, we focus on developing this much-needed foundation. We start with the understanding that suffering comes when we feel isolated, when we hold back parts of our longing and our desires – and it is connection that heals. We slowly explore how to share who we are, what we really want, and what is actually happening in our experience – whatever that might be. We build a sense of community with each other when our sharing is received and mirrored by others in ways that allows us to feel truly seen, known, heard and accepted. When we build this kind of space together, radical healing becomes possible. In fact, it becomes irresistible!
Your authentic sexual stories can be given voice – and heard with loving compassion. Distrust can shift to curiosity. The ways you hold back with others are invited to relax and evolve. Sexual competition can relax into true brotherhood and sisterhood. The emotional nutrients you missed growing up can be absorbed now, in community. Wherever you’ve contracted in fear, you’re now welcome to expand in love and playfulness.
Together we transition from feeling all alone and overwhelmed, to experiencing a new way of being, becoming a communitarian, a way in which “we’re all in this together”. My pain is your pain, and your transformation is my transformation. We function like mirrors for one another. This allows us to acknowledge both the pain of the past and the way into a new reality. We rewire our relationship to our triggered feelings – from shame, worthlessness and isolation, to connection, self acceptance, erotic innocence and play. As we pair the old with the new possibilities, we realize that what we avoid and tried to control is the very food for the connection we all starve for. Now as we step through the rough states of mind, together, we come home to where we are nourished and fed by all parts that finally come back into one whole. Now, our “angst becomes our liberation,” as we open our eyes to the possibility that we are everything; that we can hold both the victim and perpetrator, vulnerable and powerful, fearless and scared.
All of this allows us to truly become naked with each other, and from here, a new, transformational experience of intimacy can arise. In deep safety, penetrative honesty, fierce love and vibrant vulnerability, there is the invitation to explore our longings in a space that is cleared of the regular projections and demands that characterise most relating. We meet in erotic innocence.
This is the foundation for a bold new life of self-love and genuine connection.
To support us in this healing, we work directly with the heart and body. We use breath, sound, touch and movement practices that help us drop in with each other to a space of real, authentic connection. We discharge emotional and physical blockages to the free flow of our energy. Maps and models are shared that help us understand the dynamics of secure and insecure attachment and sensed safety from a psychological and interpersonal neurobiological perspective. In Module 1, we bond as a community. This is the foundation stone for the rest of the training.
Additional Practices:
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Trust Building and Boundary Practices (Drawing from Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Embodied Intimacy, Wheel of Consent)
Theoretical Context:
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Theoretical Context (Drawing from Interpersonal Neurobiology, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Mondo Zen, Humaniversity Psychology, Attachment Theory, Tamera Healing Biotope Philosophy, David Cates)
Module Two:
From Trauma to Personal Power
Key Focus Points:
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Discover who you in your wholeness.
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Learn healing ways of relating.
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Befriend, trust and come alive with your instincts.
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Integrate the different parts of you.
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Rebuild a secure sense of self.
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Uncover and transform old unconscious drives and patterns that have been running your life and affecting your present day relationships, emotions and behavior.
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Learn how to regulate your triggered nervous system.
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Awaken your capacity to love beyond fear and shame.
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Experience relating free from fear, lies and conflict.
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Experience an integrated and grounded sense of wholeness.
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Learn that your shadows and personal problems do not need to be fixed, but are the food for genuine connection.
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Feel powerful when you are seen as you actually are.
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Experience more self-love and self-acceptance.
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Come to terms with apparent contradictions in yourself: the destroyer and the creator, the victim and perpetrator.
A Holistic Picture
In Module One, we built a strong container of safety and community. We learned to speak up, to listen, to trust, and to bond. In the second Module, we use those shared skills and safe space to heal our deeper sexual, social and cultural and religious traumas – and to restore our personal power accompanied by others.
In order to create the love we truly desire, we must first undo the grip of unconscious fear. What comes up when we feel triggered, threatened, exposed beyond our comfort zone, or vulnerable beyond our ability to hold ourselves?
We slam on the brakes, and the love play can end in the middle of a kiss.
Our nervous systems ignite, activate and propel us involuntarily – often frighteningly – into instinctual, animal, primal responses, designed to defend us and keep us safe from possible threat. Perhaps, under the surface, we have the impulse to fight, flee, freeze, cry out or collapse, or some combination of these. All of these defences have something in common. While they may keep us alive, our sense of self intact, and protect our position, they also take us out of connection with others. When ruled by these instinctual responses in our daily lives, we find ourselves alone, isolated, disconnected and afraid.
These automatic reactions cannot be unlocked alone. They were formed in relation with other people: parents, siblings, playmates, girlfriends, boyfriends, partners, lovers, trusted adults, authority figures, perhaps even enemies or abusers.
And to unlock these traumas, large and small, we must reveal them to other human beings, and heal them in new patterns of relating.
Trauma is stored, and healed, in the body. It’s not enough to talk about it, or do emotional processes around it. To really get to the core of it, we must become vulnerable again, in a place beyond words, and move into pure embodied experience. This can only happen in a safe container we can trust. Sometimes that safe container is with a lover or a trusted therapist. But the greatest transformation, the deepest healing, seems to happen mirrored in a group when more often than not our personal trauma is our collective trauma.
In Module Two, everyone has the opportunity to work with their developmental/ attachment/ sexual traumas. These are invited to be brought into the community to be witnessed and met in love, transparent vulnerability, and rugged challenge to the illusions they maintain. We learn to connect, safely embody, and relate with these defensive instincts. We develop our capacity to possess and harness the power of these instincts, our primordial reactive power. Fear is turned to power: the power to love as we desire, to create the sacred life we wish to live.
In this process each individual is invited to claim their power back. With the group committed to each person’s healing and liberation, now there is the opportunity to learn to stand on the foundation of one’s own inner strength. The bonds of the group remain but move into the background as each individual develops their capacity to stand alone, connected to one’s own sense of safety, clear boundaries, authentic yes and no, and the strength of our essence. From here, a whole new experience of community can emerge from the woven tapestry of each individual’s offered wholeness, power and passion.
We are held within community, and we stand strong on our own two feet. This is the interdependent balance that real loves requires: I am my own solid person, and I can also merge into joyful oneness with you.
Additional Practices:
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Trauma Healing Practices (Drawing from our experience of Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Embodied Intimacy, David Cates, TRE, Body Work, Yin based approach to De-armoring, Contact Improvisation
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Affect Regulation Practices (Drawing from our experience of Sensorimotor Psychotherapy)
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Part work (Drawing from our experience of Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Theatre Improvisation, Humaniversity Therapy)
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Erotic and Sexual Healing Practices (Drawing from our experience of David Cates, Body Work, Yin based approach to Dearmoring, Rebirthing, Tantra,)
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Community Building Practices (Drawing from our experience of Sharing Circle, Zegg Forum, Humaniversity Social Meditation, Authentic Relating, Cuddle and Play Structures)
Theoretical Context:
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Theoretical Context (Drawing from our experience of Interpersonal Neurobiology, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Trauma Theory, Affect Regulation, Structural Dissociation Theory, Tamera Healing Biotope Philosophy, Sacred Sexuality)
Module Three:
The Erotic Animal Hiding in the Shadows
Key Focus Points:
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Access, trust and take responsibility for your needs, feelings and desires.
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Learn to trust in yourself and that your shadow is your gift.
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Increase your emotional intelligence, social intelligence and self-acceptance.
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Develop clear boundaries, personal power, authenticity, fearlessness and spontaneity.
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Learn ways to approach yourself and others with curiosity instead of judgment, compassion instead of impatience, love instead of avoidance, truth instead of strategies, and presence instead of control.
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Experience the beauty, power and innocence of your erotic nature.
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Transform fears, share the truth of your heart and experience relating to others from wholeness, trust, honesty and authenticity.
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Reduce social anxiety by being met as you are and mirrored by a compassionate community without being made wrong or told you need to be different to be loved and welcomed.
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Learn understandable, repeatable elements that are designed to give you the embodied foundation for a sex life that blows your mind, opens your heart and makes you grateful to be alive exactly as you are.
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Learn the alchemy of relating, the practice of courageous vulnerability and transparent self-disclosure.
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Learn how to rebuild your relationship to your emotions and wild animal instincts, and transform them into a more spontaneous, powerful, fun and passionate intimacy and sexuality.
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Be able to come from your heart and deliver potent feedback that inspires others to make brave, transformative changes.
A Holistic Picture
Now that we have strong foundations of community acceptance and personal power, we are ready to shine light into our sexual shadows. It is in the shadows that our true erotic natures have been hiding, under old layers of fear and shame. Now we’re ready to meet them. Together.
To do this in community requires courage. It takes a warriorship of the heart that is willing to reveal the most uncomfortable truths of oneself and one’s projections. Instead of performing love and sex, anxiously trying to be who you think you need to be so you’ll be loved, you can bring out the wild animal you’ve been hiding. As you transparently reveal yourself and your secret desires – wild, dirty, magical, powerful, free – we all come alive.
Doing this opens up an electric field of transparency, openness, and vulnerability within the group. We do this knowing that simply the experience of being in touch with these most isolated and denied parts of ourselves, whilst never leaving the strong, loving eyes and arms of our community, can dramatically shift and release old patterns of pain and separation. We learn to love ourselves by allowing others to love what we’ve rejected in ourselves.
Sometimes our sexual animal is too much for one lover, and gets driven back into the shadows. But in a group, with a wide spectrum of people, and no single individual asked to hold the whole impact, it becomes much easier.
We learn to share clear feedback with each other, reclaim our projections, roar from our hearts, wrestle and cuddle with each other, and rewrite old stories with new ones - ones where we can be truly ourselves, in all our power and fullness, and truly bonded with others at the same time. From this point we can begin to know a sexuality that is genuinely grounded and integrated with the core of who we are.
From an embodied self-awareness, abiding in the animal wisdom of the body, we learn to create and respond to what’s real. We let go of futile attempts to try to fix or control ourselves. By playing in the shadows, we intentionally bring in the darker sides of sexuality: kink, BDSM, taboo. We discover the power that’s been hidden in the darkness, the huge amount of stored energy that was locked up in fear and trauma. And even better: we learn how to play with it!
We do this knowing that despite (and maybe even thanks to) our edges and shadows, we are lovable, we are welcome, and we belong. We feel the relief of not needing to live from a defended place, expecting the worst to happen, again. We learn to rest in a presence that holds all the good, all the bad, as one who has enough heart and belly for both the light and the shadow.
Additional Practices:
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Mirroring and Feedback Practices (Drawing from our experience of Zegg Forum, Humaniversity Therapy, Embodied Intimacy, Contact Improvisation, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy)
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Rewilding Practices (Drawing from our experience of Contact Improvisation, Embodied Intimacy)
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Shadow Work (Drawing from our experience of Humaniversity Therapy, Drama Therapy)
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Community Building Practices (Drawing from our experience of Theatre Improvisation, Cuddle and Play Structures)
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Erotic and Sexual Healing Practices (Drawing from our experience of David Cates, Body Work, Yin based approach to De-armoring, Rebirthing, Tantra, Sexual Shamanism)
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Conscious Kink and BDSM (Drawing from our experience of Humaniversity Therapy, David Cates)
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Theoretical Context (Drawing from our experience of Tamera Healing Biotope Philosophy, Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Kink)
Module Four:
Integration and Celebration
Key Focus Points:
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Learn to lead from vulnerability.
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Learn to be, collaborate, and cooperate with others.
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Learn to live and love from your deepest self.
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Surrender into being of service to others.
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Letting go of the idea of a separate sense of self.
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Understand humanity’s collective and historical trauma and how it affects us today.
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Learn to work as a team.
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Develop comfort expressing your true self in front of others.
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Experience and identify your core values of what it means to be you.
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Come into right relationship with yourself through transparency, humility and fierce devotion to the truth, holding nothing back.
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Truly stand for what is important to you.
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Become a conscious creator of your own life, without being held back by old patterns.
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Experience coming home to yourself, letting your guard down and allowing all of you to be seen, heard and celebrated by others.
A Holistic Picture
In this final phase of our journey together, we flow, dance and play in the field of love the community has created. We nakedly expose our raw and powerful hearts. We activate the erotic force of our sexuality, in all its soulfulness and animal wildness – and explore what it means to heal, transform and empower ourselves and each other into a totally new experience of being alive,
In Module Four, the participants add new flavors to the group harvest through sharing their gifts and offerings with the community. The community enters the mystery of co-creation through a fluid leadership and a more improvised structure. We play with dissolving the boundaries between leading and following.
Each individual learns to stand in the power of their wholeness, the unique beauty of their brokenness, and the sexual force of their wildness. Together we learn how these are gifts, for each of us and all of us. We come to feel what it means to stand together as an integrated community of unique, empowered individuals, each plugged into the source of their own inspiration to contribute to the whole – in wisdom, pleasure, rawness, creativity, and celebration.
Inner work needs to be paired with outer actions. The group is invited to courageously explore and co-create and collaborate whatever synergistic and spontaneous possibilities might want to emerge between us. Our process moves into freeflow creativity.
Celebration is the heart of Module Four.
But that celebration and collaboration leads to a deeper inquiry: How are we called to change our lives, to truly live this new way of being, every day? What does it look like when we are spiritually, emotionally, sexually and physically empowered in all the other dimensions of our lives? How can we be radically committed to upgrading our relationships, families, workplaces, livelihoods, communities and connections to the natural world?
This four season journey has revealed your own unique way to live as a catalyst and change agent. It allows you be a magnet for others who are thirsty to live in the here and now. Through your vulnerable leadership you will rest in your sacred core and exude a courage to be yourself truthfully and lovingly. You will be able to meet people at a depth that is unusually genuine. Automatically you are trustworthy, and somebody that people can resonate with, because you are in touch with truth. You will become increasingly congruent with what is and more free from fear, lies and violence. As such, you will offer permission for others to be who they are, to take down their guard, and be the gift that they are, in in all the light and dark.
Having walked a courageous journey over the course of this training, and having learned to rise as green shoots of life-force from the shattered concrete of our own brokenness, we start to become the embodiment of the change we want to see in the world – part of the wild force of nature that is breaking through the walls of the old paradigm to liberate humanity into an entirely new culture and relationship to intimacy, wholeness, integrity, power, pleasure and sex. We stand as pioneers of a new phase of what it means to be human, alive and fully turned on.
Additional Practices:
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Vulnerable Leadership Practices (Drawing from our experience of Embodied Intimacy)
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Co-Creation and Collaboration Practices (Drawing from our experience of Embodied Intimacy, dance and theatre Improvisation)
Theoretical Context:
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Theoretical Context (Drawing from our experience of Tamera Healing Biotope Philosophy)
