Embodied Intimacy was created to address the fact that very few of us have any formal, or conscious, education in intimacy. We live in a word that teaches us how to read, write, calculate and solve logical problems. However, we are not taught how to love and be loved more satisfactorily.
How to be happy together.
It seems easier to go to war then it is to make love. Embodied Intimacy encourages the participants of all levels of emotional maturity to cultivate their emotional intelligence.
Each person gains trust in their authentic ability to initiate, collaborate and relate with more heart. We go from “doing” intimacy to “being” intimate. In other words, we invite participants to relax and let go of the unique and shared ways we “try” to be in order to be accepted, loved, and wanted.
We invite you to feel into what actually happens when you are together with another person. All the experiences that arise within each interaction are welcomed within mindful awareness, including feelings of rejection, abandonment and critique, as well as feelings of attraction, connection and appreciation.
Embodied Intimacy starts and stays with the body, where we are actually alive in the present moment. It often involves practices that help with the release of stress and pent up emotions to open up for more vital energy and information living in the body. It often involves primal affectionate play that wakes up the empowered and curious animal in us, connect us with our inner resources, our force, our unedited, free, innocent and infinitely creative self.
Embodied Intimacy is a belly-to-belly (formalized cuddle) school.
We meet face to face and ride on synchronized breath, sound and movement. Conscious touch and body contact is added to deepen connection and bonding. We embrace and hold one another until we are relaxed all the way in.
In the process we switch off the sympathetic nervous system, turn down the adrenalin and dopamine pumps, and switch on the parasympathetic nervous system, and open the pumps of opiates and oxytocin (cuddle hormone).
In other words, the participants are invited to slowly move from the doing and achieving mode into the being, caring and connecting mode. We move out of isolation into affiliation. Embodied Intimacy invites the participant to slow way down, breath deep into the pelvis and make sound that resonate in the whole body. It guides the participant to drop the idea of who he or she thinks they should be into the ever changing and shifting perception of the present moment through their awakened senses.
It encourages the participant to observe and align themselves congruently with what they are noticing in every moment. Constantly micro adjusting in order to harmonize with what is alive within.
Embodied Intimacy asks the participant to reveal themselves authentically.
To take risks and vulnerably let others see them as they are. To hold others in non judgmental awareness as their partner let them see into them. To be intimate and create intimacy – In to Me I See.
The microscopic truth (with little t) of each moment has the potential to set us free by allowing ourselves to be all that we are. Embodied congruence, authenticity and vulnerability has the power to shave off the dead callus of defensiveness and leave us more naked and available to be touched. met.
When we are safe we can play.
We take off our armor at the door. We lay down our weapons in order to meet naked in front of one another. We do this by honoring what our armor and weapons did and still do for us, keep us safe and secure. In the pace we feel safe to let down our guard we replace them with inner resources that gives us a somatic sense of safety, from within.
We find strength and grounding through our legs and pelvis, we center and align with what we are aware of in our core, we use our arms to create the perfect distance or proximity (push away or embrace) to others.
Embodied Intimacy subscribes to the idea that what holds us locked into unfulfilling relational patterns stem from our earliest experiences of bonding.
Thus, if we want to successfully transform the programming around intimate relating to become the most loving person we can be we need to access and work directly with the most infantile, young aspect of who we are.
Therefore, we use the non verbal language that an infant would “understand”: breath, sound, movement and touch. In the same way that an infant is happy and content in the arms of their loving parent, the participant is nourished by their partner in this belly to belly position as they hold one another with synchronized breathing and sounding.
We do not teach the participant a new ideal way of behaving more intimately. We help the participant see and study how they are behaving right now.
We believe that we can’t create sustainable change through will or force. Change is the constant. It is happening all the time. This what we focus on instead is how to stop resisting the change that wants to happen. On a deep level, regardless how logical and beneficial it seems, change is resisted instinctively.
However what we resist persists.
Thus, instead of pushing for the change we want in order to get somewhere we think is better, we align with and embrace what is, regardless how bad it seems at the moment. When we see clearly what is actually happening, intimately or not, we have a choice.
From the awakened moment and on we can now consciously choose to do it the old (seeming safer) way, or the new (risky) way. The choice is ours once we realize what is.
From this point, life is never the same.
Who Is Embodied Intimacy?
Buster Rådvik, MA
Buster’s dharma is being by example and leading with integrity. He literally wears his heart on his sleeve and has a reputation for pleasantly shocking an entire room with his candid emotional awareness and ability to reveal himself, transparently, no matter how awkward and messy it might look. His warm, open style gives permission for people to come home to themselves, embodied in an ecstatic atmosphere of vulnerability. Buster is an expert at gently guiding people into their bodies, through the shadow work, landing them safely into their heart, where vulnerable transparency is accessible and emotional intimacy becomes transformational.
All of Buster’s work including individual sessions, work with couples, and groups is focused on love, sex, and intimacy. He draws his approach from a journey of over a decade of living in intentional communities, combined with his studies and practices of various body-centered disciplines of awakening. Busters gift lies in his eloquent execution and powerful ability to create a safe space for individuals and groups to fearlessly navigate their emotional bodies as the pathway to liberation.
Buster began his career in Sweden as a professional dancer and choreographer (1991-2002). Over a period of six years, he also trained as a therapist at OSHO Humaniversity in the Netherlands (1996-2002). After a ten-year career in performing arts in Scandinavia Buster moved to the United States, where he studied and received his degree in psychology. For the last seven years Buster worked primarily as a body-centered psychotherapist with clients who struggle with trauma and addictions. Buster is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, and a trained Sensorimotor Psychotherapy therapist.
Rachel Rickards is an adventurous spirit in the realms of love, sex and relationship. Her natural exuberance gives permission to others to explore their authentic selves in uncharted territory. Her never ending enthusiasm and energy for the work of transformation and the ease of play at the same time is a huge gift adding depth coupled with perspective to everything she does. One of Rachel’s greatest contributions to a space is how she is able to embody the feelings of an individual or group field with such acute awareness, that one could almost observe her as the pure reflection of what is present in the field at any given moment.
With Rachel, comes a passion for relating and loving in alternative ways and helping people find their truth in the way they want to love and be loved. She has sincere empathy for the difficult path of relating outside of the box, but also great enthusiasm for the spiritual journey it is to find your own relationship to relating with others, and ultimately, most importantly, to yourself. More recently, Rachel has been thriving in her work with women empowerment, helping her clients to find their voice and define their boundaries; to live life actively owning the kind of relationship their heart desires.
Rachel is adept at using sound and touch as a vehicle for unconditional love. She also is a skilled event production manager with 10 years of experience, whose organizational genius and open arms make her the quintessential “hostess with the mostess.” With personal and professional training in psychology, sex therapy and alternative/open relationship counseling, she is committed to helping others find their full creative expression in life and love.